When we put someone on a pedestal, we relinquish our own power and set the stage for potential disappointment.

In our vibrant vintage years, it's natural to see someone new in a glowing light, especially when romance is blossoming or a meaningful friendship is taking root. Their virtues seem to outshine everything else, making it appear as if they have no flaws. This phase, often referred to as putting someone on a pedestal, is a common part of relationships. We might even do this with mentors or spiritual guides. While this can be an enchanting phase, it's crucial to remember that it's just that—a phase. The real trouble begins when we start to believe our own idealized projections.

Everyone has imperfections, just as we do. When we fall into the trap of thinking someone is flawless, we don't allow them the space to be human. When they inevitably make a mistake or don't live up to our idealized image, disillusionment sets in. We might feel anger or distance ourselves as a result. It's important to remember that the person isn't at fault for our unrealistic expectations. While they might enjoy being seen as perfect, it's our choice to uphold the illusion. Over time, through repeated experiences, we learn that no one is perfect. Each of us is a blend of divine and human traits, all navigating our own struggles.

Embracing this understanding allows for a deeper intimacy in our relationships. When we stop elevating our loved ones to an unattainable pedestal, we start to see them for who they truly are, creating a more authentic connection. True connection can't thrive on idealization. Life doesn't have pedestals—we're all sharing the same journey, side by side. Realizing this helps us embrace both our divinity and our humanity, fostering balance and wholeness in our relationships.

Key Takeaways:

1. Recognize the Pedestal Phase: Understand that seeing someone in an overly idealized light is a natural but temporary part of new relationships.

2. Acknowledge Human Flaws: Accept that everyone has imperfections, and these flaws make us human and relatable.

3. Foster Authentic Connections: True intimacy comes from seeing and accepting loved ones as they truly are, not as perfect beings.

4. Maintain Balance: Embrace both your own and others' humanity and divinity to nurture balanced, fulfilling relationships.

Remember, in our journey of love and relationships, staying grounded and realistic helps build stronger, more meaningful connections. Let's walk this path together, cherishing the imperfections that make us uniquely beautiful.

Be sure to tune into the Love Lounge Podcast.  This Wednesday, Laura and Aneela will dive deeper into this topic.